I feel bad that I don’t have good communication skill, as I don’t know what to say, I just listen and don’t have anything to share back. My knowledge is so limited [sigh].

This morning, I work at the library and catch another good book ^_^. Basicly, I should listen more and talk less. What a relief!, as I mostly just listen hehe. Well, I like this part of the book:

“Sometimes, you should not listen…

_ Do not listen to someone who is broke tell you how to be rich.

_ Do not listen to a fat doctor who smokes tell you what it takes to be healthy. [ I thought I should listen to them anyway, as there are people who know the good things but cannot do them, so I could just take the good part and eliminate the bad part.]

_ Do not listen to someone tell you how to be successful when they are not.

_ Do not listen to a preacher tell you that you are worthless sinner.

_ Do not listen to people who talk bad about other people.

_ Do not listen to office gossip. [I thought I should listen to them anyway, to know what they are talking about and imagine what they gonna talk about me haha.]

_ Do not listen to anyone put you down for any reason at any time.

_ Do not listen to yourself when you are talking bad about yourself. [This was a really important lesson for me that I forgot lately ^_^].

…No one will ever talk as badly about you or to you as you will to yourself. Do your best to control that negative self-talk. When you catch yourself saying things like “I could never do that” or “I’m not good at that” or “I’m so stupid” – STOP! Regroup and restate what you should be saying to yourself”: “I can do this!” and things that move you closer to the result you want, not further from it.”

Source: Winget, Larry (2004). Shut up, stop whining & get a life. John Wiley & Sons, Inc. Hoboken, New Jersey. pp 7.